The Party Lady

Memorial Day Weekend Barbeques

2008-05-11T18:34:00.001-07:00

In two weeks we will celebrate the official beginning of summer - Memorial Day Weekend. Memorial Day originated as a way to honor the American soldiers who lost their lives fighting the Civil War by decorating their graves. The holiday is now celebrated on the last Monday of May with parades and memorial services. This marks the kick-off to the summer barbeque/party season. Many Americans celebrate Memorial Day by firing up a grill and having a cookout. So send out the invitations, stock up on red, white and blue plates and napkins, drape the banners, blow up the balloons, hang the flag and welcome your family and friends!
One of the hallmarks of a good party is to treat your family like company and your company like family. I wish you all a very happy summer season of parties and celebrations with your family and friends!!

Planning a party in a senior community

2008-05-11T14:16:00.000-07:00

Many senior citizens would like to give a party who are living in senior living residences. My cousin is living in a senior community here in the Hudson Valley and planning a family reunion this summer. She has written her list, sent invitations, and has hired a local restaurant/caterer to provide the meal. The affair will be held in the community room of the residence where she has requested the date in advance. There are several facilities that have community rooms that make it easy to host a party this way.
If you are hosting a large family reunion where you haven't seen the members in a while, having name tags for everyone may make it easier for everybody to connect or re-connect. Another idea is to ask each person attending to bring a favorite recipe and have someone compile a family recipe book afterwards. A volunteer to organize a family directory with names, addresses, e-mail addresses and important dates to remember may be helpful. Prizes could be awareded for the youngest attendee, the oldest, and for the one who traveled the farthest. A group photo would be a welcome addition to the day!

A year of parties...

2008-05-05T19:23:00.000-07:00

It's been a fun year of blogging about parties! Please let me know if there are any particular type of parties that you would like to read about as I will be finishing up with The Party Lady blog at the end of this week.

Golf outings/parties

2008-04-29T16:35:00.000-07:00

Spring is here, it's golfing season! Those of you who are golfers are out on the links, why not a golf outing and party? This can be combined with a wedding weekend. Make it a 9 hole or 18hole scramble for a more relaxed experience. Organize foursomes according to different handicaps. Some courses will prepare boxed lunches, you can order these, personalized tees, golf socks or visors for your guests. "Closest to the pin," "Longest Drive," "Lowest score" are just a few possibilites for prizes, these can be awarded at the rehearsal dinner.
There are many organizations that have golf outings as fund raisers. Often the group will play 9 holes, meet for lunch and off again for the last 9 holes with a dinner following. Those of you who would like to invite friends for a round of golf can make it simple; play and meet later with a "pot-luck" type of supper, or go to the golf club for dinner afterwards. Either way, enjoy the Spring weather and have a great round!

After the wedding...

2008-04-28T12:14:00.000-07:00

Our daughter had a beautiful day for her wedding. 190 guests and they all made it to the Hudson Valley, from 23 states and Qatar with only a few glitches from the airlines. We were extremely lucky in the weather, the limo pulled up to the church, the church bells rang and the sun knew its cue and shone through the windows just as she was getting ready to walk down the aisle with her father. We were very blessed!
It's different being the wedding planner at your own family event. Thankfully I have a very capable partner who orchestrated the affair. (I had the day off!) I would highy recommend that a wedding planner help with a wedding, to coordinate and keep everyone on a schedule. Even the most seasoned bridesmaids and groomsmen need assistance and guidance prior to the ceremony. Something will go wrong, and it is comforting to know that the event planner will be there to take the reins or put out any fires. Our guests were very impressed with the Hudson Valley and all it has to offer. A good time was had by all!!

RSVP To A Wedding Invitation

2008-03-28T22:43:00.000-07:00

I've written before about responding to wedding and general party invitations and am seeing the reality of wedding non-responses first-hand as Mother of the Bride. To date we are missing 19 rsvps. Depending on the venue, that can translate to more than 2 tables of guests! Having to call is awkward for both the caller and guest, but necessary to verify attendance. The small card can be lost in the shuffle with the rest of the mail, it can be overlookeed as just another item on a busy checklist of obligations. It's usually better to respond quickly when receiving the invitation than to let it wait and risk losing it. I know there are other MOBs or MOGs who have similar experiences, care to comment?

Easter Egg Hunt Party

2008-03-21T05:14:00.001-07:00

An Easter Egg Hunt Party for your family and friends can be simple and fun. Purchase helium balloons in pastel colors for decorations. Keep it simple, you can use colored hard-boiled eggs or the plastic eggs filled with prizes. So there are no tears with the little ones who can't find the eggs as fast as the older children, color code the eggs in your hunt. For those under 4, they could hunt for the yellow and blue eggs, 4 - 6 can be on the hunt for green and orange eggs, etc. Put jelly beans or pennies or nickles in the eggs (quarters or folded dollar bills for the older children.) Have several "grand prizes" such as chocolate bunnies, or stuffed ones. The older children can go on to have an "egg and spoon race." Use hard-boiled eggs and spoons, make it a relay with teams. For a more elaborate gathering, have an Easter Brunch after the egg hunt. Happy Easter!

March Madness Party

2008-03-21T04:59:00.001-07:00

It's time for the annual NCAA March Madness. Why not throw a March Madness Party? Similar to a Superbowl Party as you will be watching the games, but it can be held on several different dates all to culminate with the "Final Four." Decorate with basketball balloons or your favorite teams colors. Keep the fare simple, a meat and cheese platter, chips and dips, beer and soft drinks. Brownies, chocolate chip cookies or basketball cupckaes for dessert. A "slam -dunk party" to bring your friends to the Final Four!

Shopping for The Bridal Gown

2008-03-10T05:31:00.001-07:00

Soon after my daughter became engaged, we set out one Saturday to shop for her bridal gown. She had gone with friends to Boston to see what was available there, and two weeks later she and I set out for several places in the Hudson Valley. I am happy to report that here, not Boston, is where she found her dress. We went to four places, in three she found a dress that was a possibility, but in the last salon I knew she had found something special when the tears appeared after trying on her first dress there. The owner of the salon brougnt her several other dresses, all equally lovely. She put the first one one again, more tears. That was the dress! I heard the popping of champagene being poured for us and out came my checkbook. Interviewing brides for wedding coordination usually tells us that the first thing brides-to-be shop for is the dress, long before finding the church or reception venue. How many of you have stories on finding THE dress?

St. Patrick's Day Party

2008-03-06T05:43:00.001-08:00

St. Patrick's Day is coming, that means that Spring cannot be too far behind! You don't have to be Irish to celebrate with a St. Patrick's Day Party!
Have a green tablecloth? If not, use a white one and add greenery and maybe some shamrock confetti. You can purchase green sequin hats, St. Paddy bolwer hats and green beads for your guests to add to their "wearing of the green." For traditional fare serve an appetizer of smoked salmon with a dill sauce and then onto to the traditional corned beef and cabbage, colcannon (new potatoes mixed with boiled white cabbage) or serve them separately. Try adding green food coloring to regular mashed potatoes for something non-traditional, but fun! If you are looking for something different, you could offer Lamb chops, Baked Cod, Irish Stew, or Shepherd's Pie. Complete the dinner with Irish Soda Bread. Beverages include "green" beer, or Guinness. Also try some Black and Tan (Irish stout & lager beer) or Black Velvet (Guinness & champagne.) Top it off with Irish cream pie, green apple slices, kiwi, shamrock shaped cookies or cupcakes with green icing. Scatter some bowls of pistachios and green M & M's around. Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Wedding Presents

2008-03-04T06:59:00.000-08:00

It is customary for the wedding presents to be sent ahead of time to the bride. The question arises then "what does the couple do with the wedding presents received before the wedding?" Hold on to them and wait to use them until after their honeymoon. While packages are sent ahead, cards are usually brought to the wedding.
The tradition of displaying the gifts is not as popular as it once was. In the past, gifts were displayed on a table usually at the bride's home for friends and relatives to see. An individual place setting displaying the couples china, silver and crystal pattern would be set and various gifts received would also be displayed. Checks were also on the table with a ribbon concealing the amount, covered with glass. Guests were invited ahead of time to the home to see the gifts. One rarely sees that practice today.
When shopping for the couple, one does not have to send a present from their registry, but it's a good idea to consult the registry. If the couple have registered for china, silver or crystal, the gift giver can give them something in the pattern that they have chosen. Consulting the registry is also helpful in learning their colors and style. Gifts can be given up to one year of the wedding date. It's not the cost of the gift, but the thoughts and good wishes of the giver.

Planning a daughter's wedding when you are a wedding planner

2008-02-28T07:56:00.000-08:00

Someone asked me recently how has it been planning my daughter's wedding since I am a wedding/event planner? My answer: Interesting!
When my older daughter was getting married seven years ago, she and her fiance' wanted a destination wedding. Over 200 guests were invited, all from out-of-town. Since my husband and I were unfamiliar with the local florists, photographers, musicians, caterers, hair and make-up artists, etc. we hired a wedding planner. While checking the references I spoke to a mother of a bride who lived in the area and was planning a small wedding. Curious I asked her, since she lived there, why she would hire a wedding planner? Her answer was "Darling, that day I just want to put my dress on." So did I, I thought! We hired the wedding planner, all the details were taken care of and that day I too just "put my dress on!" Since this will be a larger wedding and I am now familiar and have worked with local florists, photographers, musicians, hair and make-up artists, stationers, rental companies, etc. it has been easier to find exactly what we're looking for. In making these suggestions to my daughter, the bride-to-be, I can rely on my business partner/wedding planner to act as the "buffer." She and I have been the "buffer" for many brides and their mothers as we've coordinated their weddings. Since I do not want to jeopardize our mother/daughter relationship (those of you with daughters can relate) my partner will orchestrate the rehearsal, wedding ceremony and reception and I (once again) will "put my dress on!"

"A Night at the Museum" Party

2008-02-25T06:11:00.001-08:00

Why not a party for 8 -12 year old budding paleontologists? I recently visited the American Museum of Natural History in NYC. They have a AMNH Sleepover for 8-12 year olds. Quite an adventure! The price includes exploration of the live-animal exhibits with museum guides, fossil exploration by flashlight, watching "Dinosaurs Alive" in the IMAX theatre, challenging "Museum Quests," an evening snack, sleeping in the museum, a light breakfast, and take-home activiites.
Because of the very popular movie, this would be a fun adventure with wonderful memories for this age group. Are there any other museums that you know of locally that have a similar program?

Hosting an "Oscars Party"

2008-02-23T05:05:00.000-08:00

Since the Academy Awards will be given out on Sunday, why not throw a red carpet "Oscars" party? Invite some friends to watch the Oscars. Encourage them to wear their finest and perhaps have some tiaras and top hats to hand out when they arrive for added glitz. Serve a buffet dinner or just snacks. Whatever you serve, make sure you have buckets of popcorn. Decorate with silver stars and twinkling lights around the room. Pass out ballots and pens and have everyone vote for Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Original Song, Best Foreign Film, Best Animated Film, Best Documentary, Best Achievement in Film Editing, Costume Design and Best Picture. The one with the most correct answers could make an acceptance speech before accepting their prize. The prize for the winner could be movie passes to your local theatre.
Have fun and make it festive!

Post-Wedding Party

2008-02-22T06:28:00.000-08:00

Since so many weddings today are weekend events, it has become a new trend where the "post-wedding party" has become popular. For some this is a brunch hosted by the parents of the bride or groom and can be held in the hotel where the guests are staying. For others it can be a casual party in someone's home held in the early afternoon before guests drive home or head to an airport for their return trip. If the wedding takes place at a beach or resort, it can be a picnic or a beach party. If the bride or groom's family is hosting at their home, they may want to consider hiring someone to do the arrangements for a "stress-free" affair the day after the wedding. What type of post-wedding parties have you attended or hosted?

Rehearsal Dinners

2008-02-22T06:04:00.001-08:00

Rehearsal Dinners usually are held the night before the wedding, after the wedding rehearsal and usually hosted by the groom's parents. If this is not possible, the bride's parents can arrange for the rehearsal dinner. It is customary for the wedding party and their spouses to be invited along with the officiant, the bride's parents, siblings, grandparents, readers, ushers and some out-of-town guests. The rehearsal dinner can take many forms, such as a picnic, beach party, buffet or formal dinner. It is usually not as formal as the wedding. It's a good idea to have invitations sent so there is no confusion as to who is included in the guest list. Some rehearsal dinners have everyone on the guest list invited, but this is usually for small weddings. The rehearsal dinner is the time for the bride and groom to give their individual gifts to their bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Birthday Parties for the New Teen

2008-02-22T05:46:00.000-08:00

Birthday parties for the girl turning 13 can be a challenge. Since they are experimenting with make-up, why not have a party with a make-up and skin care professional? The pro can talk to the girls about proper skin care and make-up application. A long table with individual mirrors, wash cloths, water, cotton swabs, individual pots of make-up while they practice and apply these new skills. Alert the parents before you begin to make sure there are no allergies that need to be addressed. "Goody Bags" can include nail polish, lip gloss, emery boards, make-up removal sponges. I've witnessed this type of party first-hand and it was a big hit!

Valentine's Day and Proposals

2008-02-14T09:08:00.000-08:00

Happy Valentine's Day! Today is a romantic day! While this isn't usually a busy "party" day for adults, this is a day for sending and receiving cards, flowers, chocolates and in some cases, jewelry! Many of you will celebrate Valentine's Day with a special dinner. Others will have more elaborate plans with a weekend get-away, or a noted restaurant reservation or attending a Valentine's Day Dance. Some of you will become getting engaged today. Valentine's Day is one of the four highest days for proposals, the others are Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, and New Year's Eve. While most proposals are intimate affairs between two people, the trend today for some is to have a more elaborate proposal with other people involved. There was an article in the NYTimes recently about a man who staged a fake show which the bride-to-be thought was a real show. The actors were all part of the ruse. Locally, a bride was proposed to on the rink at Rockefeller Center. Both Marist alums, the groom invited the bride-to-be to go ice skating and proposed on the ice. The snow was falling and the groom-to-be had several friends help him. One of his buddies had a large bouquet of beautiful red roses ready ringside. The groom-to-be skated to pick up the flowers, then skated to the middle of the rink and proposed on one knee. Another couple was there with their camera ready and shot the scene. Afterwards they all went out to dinner and celebrated the romantic event. Lot of happy spectators and skaters cheered. Way to go, Luke!
A very Happy Valentine's Day to all and let us in on any special proposals that happen to you this Valentine's Day!

Shopping locally for your Party

2008-02-06T22:02:00.000-08:00

I just returned from four days at the New York International Gift Fair held at the Jacob Javits Center. There were some wonderful invitations, decorations, favors and ideas for all kinds of parties, weddings and celebrations! Lots of color will be seen this coming season. There was good news to report; in a difficult economic climate many independent retailers are actually thriving. "Buy Local" campaigns have helped sales to increase by encouraging shoppers to support locally owned businesses with strong community roots. We have a plethora of wonderful shops and venues here in the Hudson Valley with many talented and knowledgeable caterers, bakers,jewelers, chocolatiers, tent rental professionals, florists, photographers, invitation stationers, bridal salons, tuxedo shops, day spas, hair dressers, skin care and make-up artists, musicians, djs, travel agents, transportation vehicles, artists, shop owners and store employees willing to help with your selections. The Hudson Valley has become a destination for weddings, parties and corporate events. Having an event planning business and planning my own daughter's wedding here this spring, I have seen this first hand. All your needs and details can be obtained right here in the Hudson Valley. So shop locally for your next party or event!!

Kids invited to The Super Bowl Party

2008-02-01T12:58:00.000-08:00

If there will be children at the Super Bowl Party make sure there are "kid-friendly" snacks for them. Also, they may be not all that interested in the game. How about having some board games, movies, dvds, word scramble games (using "football" related words such as touchdown, pass, quarterback, goal, etc.) For younger children have a place where they can color and provide new coloring books and crayons.
The older kids may like "Football Charades." They can act out words such as goalpost, cheerleader, half-time, first down, etc. Purchase small footballs or nerf footballs for prizes. For those kids who will be watching the game, keep them focused with questions such as: which team won the toss? Who scored the first touchdown? What is the score after the first quarter? second quarter? Give some questions about the commercials too! And have prizes ready for the winner(s).
Popcorn has become the most popular snack of Super Bowl Parties with pizza being the number one choice for the main course. These are both easy and enjoyed by kids! Enjoy Super Bowl Sunday whatever your plans are and have fun!

Countdown to The Super Bowl Party - shopping for the party

2008-01-29T19:12:00.000-08:00

Shopping for your Super Bowl Party should begin today, since the stores may be crowded toward the end of the week.I was in a party store on Monday that was completely sold out of Super Bowl plates, napkins and decorations with Giants logos. Patriots supplies however were aplenty.
Place your orders for deli trays and large sandwiches early. Since over 29 billion pounds of chips will be eaten this weekend, make sure you have your supply handy! Cheese items for dips, Mexican dishes, and pizzas will go up by 32% this Sunday, so shop early for what you'll need. This Sunday Americans will eat more salty snacks such as pretzels, chips, nuts and popcorn than any other time during the year. And what is the most popular snack? Popcorn!
Have a great Super Bowl Party and enjoy whatever you serve: pigs in blankets, potato skins, nachos, salsa, bruschetta, guacamole, dips, quesadillas, crabmeat spreads, meatballs, chicken wings, spinach balls, spareribs, hot dogs, Fenway franks, corn dogs, hamburgers, hero sandwiches, New England clam chowders, baked beans, lobster rolls, black beans, onion blossoms or whatever you enjoy....and enjoy the game and the party!

Countdown to The Super Bowl Party - decorations and games

2008-01-29T08:36:00.000-08:00

There will probably be more Giants Fans at your Super Bowl Party than Patriots, but Super Bowl parties are usually very democratic. Decorate one side of the room where you'll be watching the game for the Giants, the other side for the Patriots. If you have a large table decorate this with a green cloth, add some white lines to indicate the field, some football shaped confetti, 2 goal posts with the NY Giants on one end and the NE Patriots at the other. If you can find those large helmets for chips, even better! Your guests will most likely come dressed in football jerseys or colors of their team. (If you want to be really creative, make little jerseys out of felt and hang them around the room.) Have a large board with squares for the teams and quarters for betting. In addition to the quarterly scores you could include the time the game will end, the MVP, winner of coin toss, team for first touchdown before the playing really begins. For young children present purchase some new footballs as favors for them. Make sure you have "kid-friendly" snacks and food for them, perhaps make up a "word search" game using traditional football words such as "goal," "touchdown," and "quarterback" for them. Popcorn is the number one snack of choice on this most snacked day of the year, so make sure you have plenty! Enjoy!

Countdown to The Super Bowl Party - food

2008-01-28T08:00:00.000-08:00

This year the Super Bowl Party is especially important with the NY Giants playing! Generally speaking, hosting a Superbowl Party is relatively easy; it's a casual atmospher with casual food. You need a room (or several) with tvs set up for watching the game. You can do it yourself with standard snacks, such as chips, pretzels, dips, spreads and more hearty fare for half-time or make it even easier with having a "potluck" supper where everyone will contribute. You can have others bring the beverages (beer, wine and soft drinks.) Why not decorate with a Southwest flair since the game will be played in Arizona? Colorful decorations and a Southwest menu of guacamole, nachos, tacos, a hearty chili, chicken quesadillas, Mexican pizza, stuffed jalapenos to name a few. You could serve margaritas in addition to beer and wine and make it more festive. Be creative and have fun with it!

Alternatives for the Ladies on Superbowl Sunday

2008-01-24T12:43:00.001-08:00

This is for those ladies who are not die-hard football fans: Why not a trip to a day spa on Superbowl Sunday? Take in a Broadway show? A movie? Lunch? How about trying a "Re-Gifting Party? The stores will not be crowded, why not a shopping spree with some like-minded friends? Head to a museum. You can always meet up later at a Superbowl Party, say around half-time? I've seen Superbowl parties with a "Bridge Room" where those who were interested played bridge and mingled with the crowd at half-time. Game room? Many of you in the retail industry will most likely be at the NY International Gift Show that opens that weekend in Manhattan. How many of you have alternative plans for The Big Game? Any good ideas???

An Accessories Re-Gifting Party

2008-01-18T06:07:00.001-08:00

How about an idea for an alternative to the Super Bowl party? With the success of our Re-Gifting party it was decided we should have another one. It's in the planning stage and will be held in February. This one will be an Accessories Re-Gifting party with the items being scarves, belts, purses, and costume jewelry. How many of these do we have that we really don't want to throw out...but have grown tired of, seldom wear and maybe someone else would see the item differently? How would this work for some football widows who really don't care about the big game? Simple! As we learned from the last one, lump the items together eliminating the cost factor and everyone gets a turn to "shop!" Ours will be after Super Bowl weekend, why not try yours that day? Maybe those interested are sequestered in another room while the game is going on? Meet for the snacks at half time. Who's game for this?

"Former Bridesmaids" Party

2008-01-17T06:04:00.000-08:00

With the new movie coming out about all the bridesmaid dresses in one closet, why not throw a party and show off some of those creations? How many of us still have a bridesmaid dress (or two or three....) in our closet that we haven't parted with? (guilty!) Some may have been recycled. I know of one such dress that was a lovely light purple (actually it was periwinkle, the color that looks good on everyone!) that was recycled for a Halloween costume of Miss Piggy! (The former bride was not in attendance.) We were all told that we would wear them again...so why not all at once - with a party? This could be a great alternative to a Superbowl party!?! You don't have to actually wear them to the Superbowl gathering (although, why not?)

That Re-Gifting Party

2008-01-05T07:03:00.001-08:00

I decided after hearing and blogging about a "Re-Gifting Party" to throw one. I invited some friends for the first Friday evening after the New Year. We met at my home last night for a light supper and refreshments - 9 women and one male, Jack Daniels. We all brought our unwrapped "treasures" to be re-gifted. There were 4 places to put the items: one table for the $0-10 items, another $10-25, another $25-50 and one more spot for the $50. and up. We had a meeting to determine how we were going to do this. My original premise was that depending on the price point one would receive a ticket to "shop" at that table. Vetoed! It was decided that no one cared what the price point was, we didn't want the stuff back and who cared if someone got something they chose that happened to be more or less than what they brought. So, names were called one by one and that person "shopped" for one item, another name was called and she "shopped" for an item until we all had mutiple turns to "shop" and the items were gone! Well, almost all... there are 2 very small items left which will be donated to charity. Interesting comments when gifts were put on the tables "Can you believe someone actually gave this to me?" A moment later: "Oh, I love this!" (concerning the same item!) It's amazing how many gifts were originally given by relatives!! We had a lot of laughs and it was decided that we wanted to continue to meet, so a monthly book club was formed. Our first meeting will be the end of January.
I highly recommend this "Re-Gifting Party!" The adage "someone's trash is another's treasure" definitely applied!

New Year's Eve Parties

2007-12-31T10:19:00.001-08:00

It's New Year's Eve! Got plans? Many of you will be having small, intimate dinner parties at home, others will be traveling to restaurants for dinner and in some cases, dancing, yet others will opt for more formal galas to bring in the New Year. Here's wishing all of you a very Happy New Year and we'll talk and share ideas about more parties for 2008!!

Christmas "grab bag" gift party

2007-12-11T15:18:00.000-08:00

I recently attended a party where I was asked to bring a wrapped Christmas gift. I brought my gift and received a ticket in exchange. After we ate, the first ticket was called, a guest went up to a table and took a gift. The next ticket was called and that guest had the option to take a wrapped gift or take the one from the first guest and so on. The last guest had the option of choosing the last wrapped gift or any of the gifts that had been opened. Lots of "stealing" and laughs ensued. How many of you have been to this type of "exchange?" And what is this game/idea called?? No one could agree! I've heard several names for it....what's the consensus? (By the way, I got a very nice array of red scented candles which I will use during the holiday season.)

A Re-Gifting Party?

2007-12-05T08:37:00.000-08:00

I just became aware of a new trend, a "re-gifting party." It occurs after the holidays and guests are asked to bring a gift that they would like to "re-gift." Does the adage about someone's trash being another's treasure apply here? I guess you'd have to be careful not to bring a gift if the giver of your "treasure" could possibly be in attendance! What's your take on this new trend? Have any of you been to one of these? "Recyling" idea or not?

Christmas Tree tailgate

2007-11-25T07:19:00.000-08:00

We see license plates from several hours away coming to the Hudson Valley to get that perfect tree. Why not add a tailgate when picking out the tree? Pack a picnic of sandwiches, snacks and hot chocolate. Make it an event!

Trim-a-Tree Party

2007-11-25T07:15:00.000-08:00

'Tis the season.....why not make trimming the tree another opportunity to throw a party? Everyone brings an ornament and adds one to your tree. You could incorporate the "pot-luck" here very easily. This is great for young people who are just getting started collecting holiday decorations, or a great way for older couples to "downsize" and donate a treasured ornament from their tree. If you have a "theme" tree, mention the theme in the invitation.

Holiday Cookie Exchange Party

2007-11-15T08:41:00.000-08:00

How many of you have been invited to a cookie exchange and declined because you are too busy to make the required cookies? (I'm guilty!) Rethink this, it's not as scary as it appears. As the host, give a few weeks notice, invite a few friends and neighbors over, ask them to bring maybe 3 dozen of one cookie,(adjust this according to the size of the group)and a large container to take home the offerings. Have holiday music playing in the background, spread a festive cloth on a table, serve some nibbles (or just more desserts) and beverages. Everyone will gather around the table to collect their cookies, they will receive the amount they brought. Even if some cookies are large, others are small, it will all even out in the end. Ask each to bring a copy of their recipe to pass out. We're all busy, but maybe this is just what some of us need in this busy time of the year? Allow ourselves to schedule this in order to make time with friends and neighbors. By making just one kind of cookie, we get to take home several dozen different kinds of cookies for the holidays. How many have been to one and who's planning one for this year?

Holiday Wrapping Party

2007-11-14T13:02:00.000-08:00

How many of us are up very late wrapping holiday presents alone? Why not turn the chore of holiday wrapping into a party? Invite a few friends, maybe incorporate the idea of a Potluck party (or at least a few snacks and beverages) and wrap your gifts together? Bring and share your supply of boxes, bags, tissue, wrapping paper, ribbons, gift tags, decorations and all your creative ideas. Do your gifts usually look the same as they did last year? (and the year before?) Perhaps one of your friends brings a different perspective to wrapping a package, while another is a whiz at bows? Is there someone who can write the names on the gift tags using calligraphy? Even if another is "all thumbs" they could be go-fers and keep the food and beverages coming. Channel the particular strengths of the group and have some fun...while getting your holiday chore done!

Potluck Parties

2007-11-14T07:17:00.000-08:00

With the holidays coming, and with so much to do, it might be time to employ an old-fashioned "Potluck supper" get-together with friends.
The term "potluck" was used when inviting someone to an informal family dinner where the guest would be taking his/her chances with what was in the "pot." Another definition was of a community meal comprised of contributions. Many "Potluck suppers" were held on Sundays, after church services. Today's twist on the Potluck supper can be a casual party with friends and little work for the busy host/hostess.
The rules for a "Potluck" are easy: food should be portable and not require last minute fussing, a quick heating up is all that should be necessary.
Call a few friends, eliminate the possibility of everyone bringing a dessert by asking for a specific course: appetizer, salad, meat or casserole, side dishes, bread, beverages, dessert(s). Often the host/hostess will provide the main dish and beverages with friends bringing the rest of the meal. Make sure there are lots of serving dishes and utensils available.
Why not try this with a few friends after a hectic day of holiday shopping??

Thanksgiving Dinner

2007-11-12T15:57:00.001-08:00

Most of you probably have your Thanksgiving plans set by now. Some of you will "do it all" the planning, shopping, cooking and cleaning. Youll make the turkey and all the trimmings while others will opt for a group effort. I'm hearing of lots of friends and family dinners where guests bring a favorite dish, making it more personal with their particular "comfort food" being served and having it less stressful for the host since some appetizers, accompaniments and desserts will be provided. Do any of you have a tradition of saying "thanks" before the meal that you'd like to share? Some use cards with just one word to trigger a thought for their guests to speak about. Others have the oldest and the youngest at the table say their "thanks." Do any of you have memorable Thanksgiving dinner moments that you particularly enjoyed and would like to share?

Scrapbooking Party

2007-11-09T07:13:00.000-08:00

Scrapbooking has become very popular and many are finding it more fun to work on their scrapbooks with a group to share ideas and supplies. I just heard of a group of 8 women who went to a resort for a weekend to work on their individual projects. Lots of laughs, food, wine and scrapbooking! Great way to bond and get your project launched, have help with an existing one or finish the one that's been sitting idle for awhile. I'm hearing of many who are doing scrapbooking for their kids high school graduations, they have approximately 18 years of pictures to be used. I attended a wedding shower where the bride-to-be was given one from her future mother-in-law with lots of pictures and memorabilia about the groom-to-be. A treasured gift! One mother I know made one for her son's Eagle Scout ceremony which featured pictures and awards from all of his years in Boy Scouts. How many of you are working on a scrapbooking project and have attended a scrapbooking party?

Progressive Dinner Party

2007-11-06T04:16:00.000-08:00

A progressive dinner party is a great way to get together with your neighbors for a fun evening. If you live in an area with neighbors within walking distance, it's a little easier to maneuver. For a smaller group have one house designated to be the "appetizer house." All the neighbors gather there for appetizers and then head out to the various homes for dinner. All have the same menu for dinner. Each host will make the same entree and the accompaniments are provided by the attendees (delivered earlier in the day.) After dinner all reconvene at one home for dessert. If you have a large group, I would suggest a committee to draw names from a hat to divide the guests as to certain homes for appetizers and main courses. There could be more than one home for appetizers, several for dinner (usually 8 for dinner works well, obviously the owner would be at this home) and then, if possible, gather at one to two homes for dessert. Decide on the menu and the cost, and divide it equally among all. Everyone should have the same amount of work: providing the appetizers, main courses, accompaniments and desserts. How many of you have participated in one before? Great idea for a holiday party! Have fun and tell us all about your experience.

OctoBEAR party for moms and tots

2007-10-11T06:27:00.001-07:00

How about a party for moms and pre-schoolers? This party is inspired by the song "The Teddy Bears Picnic." A playdate party where the children bring their favorite teddy bears. Make bear prints leading to your front door for the children to follow. Have books on hand with bear themes, such as "Corduroy," "Winnie the Pooh," We're Going On A Bear Hunt, "Bear Snores On," "Every Autumn Comes the Bear" and "Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?"
Each child could wear "bear ears" which can be made out of chenille pipe cleaners. Spread a blanket or tablecloth on the floor and serve out of picnic baskets lined in red and white checked fabric. Depending on the age, you could serve peanut butter and jelly sandwiches cut out using bear cookie cutters. Don't forget "teddy grahams," "gummy bears" and teddy bear stickers as favors. For the moms you could serve sandwiches (other than pb&j) or salads. Have the theme of "The Teddy Bears Picnic" playing to greet your guests. This can also be adopted to include a birthday celebration. Add teddy bear balloons, a teddy bear cake and give teddy bear books as favors.

Oktoberfest

2007-10-11T06:03:00.001-07:00

How many of you have been celebrating at an Oktoberfest this month? Now is the time! Oktoberfest is a two-week festival held each year in Munich, Germany during late September and early October. To have your own version of "Oktoberfest" invite friends over for some pale ale or a hearty stout (or your favorite beer or a micro-brew.) Decorate with fall foliage (anyone have edelweiss?) incorporating the German colors: black/red/gold. Serve German fare for your menu such as bratwurst, pork, sauerbraten, Black Forest ham, cabbage, German potato salad or spaetzle and finish your meal with apple strudel or Black Forest cake for dessert. Tell us how you celebrated Oktoberfest!

Holiday Open House

2007-10-08T05:47:00.001-07:00

The leaves are falling, November is around the corner and time to think about hosting a Holiday Open House. Open House parties are usually held in the late afternoon. Guests are not obligated to arrive at a particular time if it's an Open House, but state a beginning and ending time such as 4 pm to 6 pm, or 5 pm to 7 pm on your invitation to ensure that someone won't be dropping by when the party is over. One can make it simple and serve hors d'ouevres with wine and beer or add spirits for a full bar. You can hire a bar tender or make it a self-service affair. If you decide to serve wine, you will need one bottle of wine for every 5 guests.
A buffet with many choices of hors d'oeuvres, hot and cold arranged on a table where they are easily accessible for guests to help themselves. Plan on 8 hor d'ouevres per person. Some of your guests will plan on your appetizers being their dinner, while others may have dinner plans for afterwards. Better to plan on having more than less!
Try different heights for your appetizers, place large books under the tablecloth to elevate some dishes for a more interesting table. Gourds, pumpkins and leaves are an easy way to decorate your table at this time of year. A dessert table with coffee and tea offerings for the ending time. Finger food desserts such as cookies, brownies, fruit on skewers, chocolates are the simplest and always well received.

Halloween Party costumes

2007-09-30T18:08:00.000-07:00

What to wear to a Halloween party when the invitation requires a costume? If you are attending as a couple, how about a famous couple from tv or the movies? Singles can go as a pop star, cartoon character, politician, animal, food item, popular toy or stuffed animal? Perhaps a favorite team mascot or sports figure? Country western singer or a Broadway show star? Fictional characters? Song and dance team? A popular character from a children's nursery rhyme or fairy tale? Costumes from foreign countries? What have been some of your favorite costumes, either you have worn or have seen on others? Was there a theme to the party? What costumes were awarded prizes? Tell us some of your most creative costumes.

Halloween Parties for Children

2007-09-30T16:13:00.000-07:00

How many of you are planning a Halloween Party for children?
Many parents today would rather have a party at their home instead of having their children go "trick or treating." Parents want a fun and safe way for their children to celebrate.
About.com has a wonderful website with great suggestions for Halloween games for children's parties. The October issue of Better Homes and Gardens is filled with Halloween tricks and treat ideas. Kaboose.com is another website for fall crafts and fun snacks. What's your favorite way your child will be celebrating Halloween?

when the invite says "dress to impress"

2007-09-26T17:18:00.000-07:00

Having heard from "golfgirl" about what to wear for a party when the invite says "dress to impress," do any of you have ideas for her? How many have been in a quandry about what to wear for a particular party or affair? Any great tidbits to pass along?? Have any of you hosted such a party? What were you expecting to see? How many of us go shopping at the last minute...panic stricken for something that's "just right?" Anyone???? (golfgirl's question is from her comment posted on the last blog - Leaf Peeking.)

Leaf-peeking party

2007-09-24T10:10:00.000-07:00

Parties in the fall tend to be more relaxed and Mother Nature can do a lot of the decorating for us. Vivid hues of coral, amber and apricot help us with our decorating scheme. Look for apples, pumpkins, gourds and artichokes and add some greenery from the garden to add to your table decor. Platter of cheeses with these accents will add a rustic touch to your table. This can set the stage for a "leaf-peeking" party. Plan to take an afternoon drive with friends and explore our breathtaking Hudson Valley fall foliage, then complete the afternoon at an outdoor table decorated with natural elements, wine and cheese.

Bachelor/Bachelorette parties

2007-09-07T18:58:00.000-07:00

What's the current trend with Bachelor/Bachelorette parties? Are they all out-of-town trips? Do the bridesmaids and groomsmen feel an obligation to attend? What's your thinking on this?

"Empty Nest" Party?

2007-09-07T09:10:00.000-07:00

Are you experiencing "empty nest syndrome" now that your youngest is off to college? We know we give our children "roots and wings" but this can be a difficult time for some parents. Others relish the thoughts and have been planning a party for years!
If you are new to this "empty nest" why not throw a party for other parents who find themselves in this position? Many schools plan "parent weekends" in October, but you'll need to send packages of goodies, home-made or store-bought before that. Why not extend an invitation to the parents of your son or daughter's friends? Ask them to bring items they would be packing for their son or daughter's package from home. Maybe some are known for their brownies, cookies, or other treats. It would be fun for your child to get a treat from a friend's mom or dad too. Pool your resources. Add other items to encourage your college student to keep in touch (besides e-mail) with some note cards, stamps, candy, rolls of quarters for their laundry, maybe a favorite magazine, perhaps give them a subscription to the local paper so they can keep up with local news and their high school sports teams. Take some pictures of the parents together and send them off with the packages! Enjoy!

Jack & Jill shower

2007-08-29T04:00:00.000-07:00

Engaged couples today are both involved in their registries. Some choose to have registries at local hardware stores or large chains in addition to department stores and specialty shops.
The first shower is said to have originated in The Netherlands. A father of a bride-to-be was against the marriage of his daughter to a poor miller. He was adamant about not giving the customary dowry. The villagers took pity on the young couple and got together to "shower" the couple with gifts. Now there are many variations on the shower. Here is one of the newest: the Jack and Jill.
First of all, both the bride and groom are celebrated, his and her friends are invited. A theme for gifts could be a "stocking the bar" shower and could include barware and accessories. Another theme could be the "Handyman/Handywoman" shower and could include tools,ladders,and gardening equipment. A more traditional take could be a practical "room by room" theme which would assign a particular room to be furnished: living room (lamps, rugs, pictures), dining room, bedroom, kitchen, bathrooms, barbeque items for the patio. If the couple are sports enthusiats,items for outdoor sports, camping gear, equipment for the sports they enjoy or chairs for spectator sports. Electronics could be another theme and of course luggage for their honeymoon. Has anyone been to a "Jack and Jill" shower? Comments?

A new breed of bride?

2007-08-20T11:35:00.000-07:00

A reader just told me of a letter to Dear Abby concerning a wedding invitation which was sent that included a deposit slip to the engaged couple's bank account "in lieu of gifts." The couple who received it were obviously insulted and were wondering if this was a new trend? Is this worse than the "suggested donation" amount we heard of before? I think so!! Abby responded to the rude behaviour and said that it could have been worse, the bride and groom could have requested the guest's bank number for a debit transaction! OMG!! Comments??

Tailgating Party

2007-08-19T18:54:00.000-07:00

With fall around the corner, it's time to think about tailgating parties. Make sure that the stadium parking lot or arena allows for tailgate parties before you head out for the game.
Pack simple and fun foods, supplies and drinks. Think about food that can be cooked ahead, can be transported easily, or if grilling, can be easily grilled.
Check first if alcoholic beverages are permitted before you bring the beer and wine.
You'll be leaving early, so pack the night before. Bring disposable plates, napkins, utensils, bottle openers, condiments, paper towels, folding chairs, radio, small grill (or smoker), coals, cooler, trash bags.
You can also modify a tailgating party by throwing one in your home. The point is to enjoy the game and the company you've gathered to watch it.

Retirement Parties/New Beginnings

2007-08-09T03:10:00.000-07:00

Retirement parties can be more than just toasts and roasts. Since many retirees will pursue new careers, hobbies, or a passion that has been put "on hold," plan a party that will reflect this. Make it fun and "up-beat." Encourage guests to bring gifts that are practical, inspirational and fun. If you know they will travel, suggest gifts that will help with this such as luggage, gift certificates to local restaurants or tickets to cultural opportunities. If they have a hobby they will actively pursue, use this as a theme for the party. New equipment, services or a subscription to a magazine on the subject could be given. A membership to a fitness club or a voucher for educational classes could be another option. Celebrate their "New Beginning."

Escort cards vs. Place cards

2007-08-07T04:44:00.001-07:00

What's the difference between escort cards and place cards? Escort cards indicate the table where you will be seated, while place cards indicate your particular seat at the table. Some couples choose numbers for the tables, others opt for names of favorite places, romantic celebrity couples, songs, movies, beaches, hobbies, etc. Place cards are usually written in calligraphy. Displaying the escort cards can be as simple as having them lined up on a table, hanging from branches, served on a silver tray or a framed chart. Place cards can be tucked in a napkin fold, put in a frame or incorporated into a favor. Use your imagination and have fun with both. Who has seen some different takes on these?

Top Five List for throwing a Surprise Party

2007-08-06T04:45:00.000-07:00

Surprise Parties are a great and fun way to celebrate an anniversary, retirement, "sweet sixteen", bridal shower, baby shower, or a "special" birthday celebration.
If having the party at your home:
1. Send invitations and make sure guests know that this is a surprise party. Have rsvp's sent to someone else or to a work number/cell phone.
2. Have a friend take the guest of honor out for the afternoon of the party. Keep in mind what the guest of honor will be wearing and have guests dress accordingly.
3. Ensure that decorations are not seen from the outside.
4. Have food, beverages and music ready. Food and beverages can be arranged by friends and neighbors or hiring a caterer. Music can be a hired band, DJ or cd's.
5. Have guests arrive at least 30 minutes before the guest of honor will return, and have them park away from the house so their cars are not visible.
Yell "surprise" when the guest of honor arrives!

Wedding present - how much does one give?

2007-07-30T11:50:00.001-07:00

A reader just told me of a letter which was recently written to Dear Abby asking how much money is appropriate for a guest to spend on a wedding present. The bride-to-be/good friend was not-so-gently reminding her guest of the amount being spent per person and how she was looking to "recouping" the cost at her wedding with monetary gifts. Abby's answer was to "take the bull by the horns" and spell out for the "good friend" her financial situation and that she most likely would not be coming up with the "entrance fee." Abby told her that if she felt her friendship might be terminated, it would be anyway since the amount she would give would most definitely not be up to the bride's expectations.
I recently heard of someone receiving an invitation with the words "suggested donation: $350." Yikes! Is this something anyone else has experienced? If so, how did you handle this? What are your thoughts on this subject?

Welcome Bags for Wedding Guests

2007-07-30T05:31:00.000-07:00

>Welcome Bags are becoming very popular to welcome your guests staying at area hotels. It's a great treat to register at the hotel and receive your Welcome Bag from the bride and groom. It's an extra special touch for your guests. These usually include a welcome note from the couple, an itinerary of the wedding day/weekend, noted area attractions, water, savory or sweet treats (such as biscotti or chocolates) to munch. The treats can be something akin to the area, for example an apple treat would be a nice touch for Hudson Valley guests. Depending on the time of year, something appropriate for the season and something that is indicative of the area. What's the best "Welcome Bag" treat you have received? Anything unusual that
you especially enjoyed?

Labor Day...Brunch?

2007-07-24T05:18:00.001-07:00

How about a twist on the Labor Day party? Why not try a brunch? Not as much work as a Labor Day barbeque and you can enjoy the rest of the day!
Five easy steps:
1.Beverages: Mimosas and Bloody Marys, both alcoholic and non-alcoholic
2.Main course: make-ahead dishes such as eggs with cheese, scrambled eggs, frittatas, stratas, enchiladas, eggs benedict. Also waffles, pancakes, crepes with strawberries and cream, cheese blintzes or quiche. Accompaniments: bacon, sausage, tomatoes and hash browns.
3.Centerpiece: why not a large edible centerpiece of fruit?
4.Dessert: muffins, scones, cinnamon rolls or coffee cake
5.Coffee, regular and decaf and assorted teas

Top Five List for Hosting a Cocktail Party

2007-07-24T04:41:00.000-07:00

We all know that cocktail parties are social events where guests mingle. Here are some suggestions for ensuring that your guests are comfortable.

1.Have a variety of non-alcoholic beverages in addition to your usual offerings.
2.Limit the number of heavy scented candles as some guests may have allergic reactions.
3.Control the music volume and room temperature so that guests can mingle and are
not too cold, not too warm.
4.Provide seating for guests who may need to sit.
5.If having buffet table, serve from both sides to alleviate wait.
Bonus tip: Relax! Guests will take their cue from the host/hostess.

A Ladies Brunch for wedding guests

2007-07-20T19:50:00.000-07:00

A friend of mine just told me about the lovely "Ladies Brunch" she attended that was given for all the ladies who attended her son's wedding. It was held the day before the wedding and all the ladies got to meet and mingle before the wedding. I have also attended a "Ladies Tea" for my niece where each guest was asked to bring an English tea cup and saucer to be given to the bride. Does anyone have a similar tradition they could share?

Thank you notes

2007-07-20T06:38:00.000-07:00

I was recently asked the question "If you thank someone in person when they give you a gift, do you need to send a "thank you" note?" It's not required, but always appreciated and shows thoughtfulness and good manners. If someone has taken the time to shop, wrap and deliver a present to you, it's always nice to send a thank you note. It doesn't matter when it comes, although the sooner the better. Whenever it arrives, it will bring a smile to the recipient!

Book Club Party

2007-07-09T04:59:00.000-07:00

There are so many Book Clubs today that a Book Club party is a fun way to celebrate a great book and summer. Send simple invitations to your friends with enough notice of the book you will read and discuss. Two weeks or a month is usually enough time. Depending on the book being discussed, pick decorations that would go with the theme of the book. A fun "summer read" could have simple beach items around with umbrella drinks. If it's a tear jerker, put out plenty of tissues. A more elaborate party could have fancy hors d'oeuvres with the host/hostess dressed as the central character. For a gothic novel, dim the lights and have plenty of candles out. Whatever you decide, just make it fun!

Wedding Programs

2007-07-06T03:54:00.001-07:00

I was recently asked by a bride-to-be about wedding programs. What are wedding programs and do we need them?
Wedding programs are not required, but they are a welcome addition to the wedding ceremony. Usually the names of the parents and grandparents are listed. Also listed are the names of the bridal party. Sometimes there are details about the bridesmaids and groomsmen. It's an extra touch to know the relationship between the bridesmaids and the bride, groomsmen and groom. You can make it simple, stating Sally is a friend of the bride, or more elaborate with how long they have been friends, where and when they met, college roommates, etc.
If one is unfamiliar with the protocol of a particular wedding, it will help to know what is coming next in the ceremony for when to stand and/or sit. The music to be played and names of the composers are also listed. Deceased relatives can be listed with a special remembrance. The bride and groom usually thank their parents, relatives and friends for attending their special day.
Any unusual programs that you have seen??

Mother of the Bride & Mother of the Groom attire

2007-06-25T04:54:00.000-07:00

There have been concerns as to the attire for Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom. Usually, they will coordinate colors with each other so they are not wearing the same color, but complement each other. It's a good idea to coordinate with the color of the bridesmaids dresses as well for the pictures. Of course the MOB and the MOG do not wear white, this is reserved for the bride.

Feeding the musicians? Photographer?

2007-06-12T18:34:00.000-07:00

I received an e-mail concerning having a meal for the musicians, dj, photographer, videographer, etc. Yes, all of these people need to be fed. They will be there for several hours, some will start before the actual reception and should be given a meal. This usually will happen during a "break" in the reception. Depending on the venue, this will vary. I've seen some musicians and photographers eat at a table at the reception, some receive a meal in the kitchen area. Other venues will have other designated areas. But yes, they need to be fed and arrangements should be made ahead of time.

Bridal Shower Gifts

2007-06-11T14:37:00.000-07:00

I recently read an article concerning gifts for a bridal shower. This article stated that one should give a gift that the bride would never buy for herself. I respectfully disagree. This completely disputes the bridal registry. The bride and groom have carefully selected things that they need and would like for their new home, why would you ignore this? One of the suggestions was monogrammed bathrobes. These are great, but do they already have enough regular towels? So many young couples are buying houses right away, they certainly need many more things. What's your take on this?

To Favor or Not To Favor?

2007-05-31T17:24:00.000-07:00

There seems to be definitive pros and cons regarding wedding favors. Some want to dismiss them, others want help finding inexpensive ones, others prefer to look for unique and elaborate ones. Ive seem small picture frames, bells, individual boxes with special candies, luggage tags (which doubled as your escort card - very clever bride Betsy!) wine bottles, wine bottle openers in the shape of a bird - in keeping with a bird theme, beeswax candles tied with a ribbon, beautifully decorated cookies in a small bag. These cookies are usually in keeping with a theme. I've also seen individual cakes with small cake boxes that the guests can take home. I was a guest at an outdoor summer wedding on a beach where we each received a large fan with the program on it. This came in very handy! This past weekend I received a cd with the couples favorite songs, I've been enjoying it all week!
Some couples prefer to make a donation to a charity in lieu of a favor and there will be a note stating this.
My findings have been that for the most part, people prefer a favor that is useful.
Now, who is "pro" the favors and name some you've enjoyed. Who is "con" and tell us why??

Save-the-date cards

2007-05-30T13:21:00.001-07:00

A bride-to-be recently asked when should "save-the-date" cards be sent? First of all not everyone is aware of this new trend of "save-the-date" cards. These are sometimes postcards, short one page announcements, magnets, or more formal notes that give guests the opportunity to have a "head-start" for planning to attend a wedding. They are especially helpful for out-of-town guests to book flights and hotel reservations early. They can be sent out as soon as the date is set. A year is not too early to send them. No one will complain about having too much time to plan on attending, especially a destination wedding.

Invitations

2007-05-27T17:46:00.001-07:00

I attended the National Stationery Show for four days last week in NYC. The show was very well attended, which bodes well for the industry. Since the invitation sets the tone for the party or event, it was interesting to see how many choices there were from the newest in traditional and formal to the different and very colorful, fun and funky. Favors were also big! I know there are some who choose not to have favors, but who still doesn't like to take home a "goody bag?" The chandelier motif was big in both invitations, stationery and favors. What's your take on different invitations and favors?

Attending the wedding ceremony

2007-05-27T17:40:00.000-07:00

Does anyone else wonder why the wedding ceremony is not as well attended as the wedding reception? I brought the programs for 150 guests to a wedding on Saturday and had about 100 programs left after the church ceremony. Is this a new trend? I hope not!

RSVP

2007-05-16T11:12:00.000-07:00

How many times have you sent an invitation and wondered why you still haven't heard from a few people? Even if you had a deadline? RSVP loosely translated from the French means "please respond." The host/hostess needs to know for planning the food amounts, beverages, tables, seats...yet, we still have to call and ask "did you get the invitation? Are you coming?" This is even more difficult with formal affairs when you are billed if they show or not. I have yet to hear of any bride who heard from all her invited guests! How many stories to share on non-responders?

Send the Wedding Gifts

2007-05-16T10:49:00.000-07:00

I've been told by quite a few MOB's that they wish all wedding guests would send their gifts ahead of time to the bride. Registries make this so easy, the store will ship it directly. Obviously, if you are bringing a card with a check, that is different. But to have to take care of the gifts after the wedding puts undue stress on the parents and the newlyweds. This happens even at destination weddings where sometimes the gifts have to be shipped home. Has anyone had experience with this? Other thoughts or ideas?

omg, it's high school all over again?!?

2007-05-09T13:09:00.000-07:00

Remember your first day of high school? The classes were fine, lunchtime came and oh, where to sit? Fast forward years later, you're invited to a dinner...same drama! Placecards take the stress away! Someone took the time to think about where you would be most comfortable. Whew! You don't have to freeze when you arrive at the table and they're a great conversation starter. Placecards...obsolete or necessary?

You're been invited for dinner

2007-05-09T11:37:00.000-07:00

You've just been invited to a friend's house for dinner. You offer to bring something, he/she politely says "no." What do you do? Just show up? Bring something? But what? You don't know what is being served...
How about bringing some flowers, a plant or a bottle of wine? Flip-side: what, as the host or hostess, do you want a guest to bring? Even after your polite "no?"

Help! I need a gift!

2007-05-09T06:23:00.000-07:00

It's that peak gift giving time of year!! Graduations, weddings, showers, anniversary parties, summer birthdays...if you're like me you want to give a gift with style.

If you haven't discovered on-line registries, they are a godsend. It shows their taste, colors, and you can shop within any budget. Baby boomers, like me, sometimes resist the on-line buying without actually seeing the item. But it's soooo much easier! For weddings check out www.weddingchannel.com and you can see exactly where he/she is registered. Everybody has a horror story of that awful Elvis lamp that must be taken out of the attic when Aunt Rita comes to town! Registries eliminate all that.

What's your fave registry? Let me know and we'll all share.